How to Fight as a Family Unit

When you’re facing a home invasion, having someone at your back can mean the difference between life and death. In many cases, the best people to rely on are your immediate family, like your wife or teenage son: you already know and trust each other, and they’re right there in the house with you.

Having someone to watch your back can make clearing rooms and hallways a lot easier.  Last week, we delved into how to do this if you’re on your own.  But that’s a worst-case scenario: you have to be able to watch 360 degrees almost simultaneously, and cover your back and sides as well as your front.  Having a partner makes clearing space much more doable.

Additionally, having a partner lets you divide responsibility.  The military embraces this technique, using the concept of “battle buddies” because having a teammate lets you handle more tasks.  One person can watch a hallway while another runs down it, for instance.  Or one person can call Peacekeeper while the other grabs a gun.

In a battle when someone’s invading your home, you’re overwhelmed by the number of things you need to do.  Having a teammate, especially one already in the house with you, can make a big difference.

Here are five ways to train effectively as a family unit:

1)   Divide Responsibility

When you’re in a home invasion, time is scarce: you need to get help, make sure your family’s safe, arm yourself, get a visual on the invader….

Working with a teammate makes all of this much easier.  Your wife can use Peacekeeper to bring in help, while you grab a gun.  Your teenage son can check on his little siblings, while you establish a visual on the bad guy.

The important thing is to plan responsibilities out beforehand.  An invasion is going to shock your nerves and scare you, so it’s a bad time to make plans on the fly.  Know in advance who’s going to do what.  These plans can—and should—be flexible, but they also need to be there.

And if you have two fighters in the house, once you’ve called for help and checked on your kids, you can work together to bring down the intruder(s).

2)   How to Clear Your House with a Team

Last week, we went over how to clear hallways and rooms on your own.  Because the most dangerous situation in a fight is one in which your assailant can see you but you can’t see him, you need to ‘clear’ the area around you to insure that it’s either clear of enemies, or to establish a bead on your foe.

Clearing a 360 degree field of vision on your own is a nightmare: you have to check your back, sides, and front to make sure they’re all free of enemies.  But with a partner at your back, you can watch each others’ backs and cut the amount you have to search in half.

The same goes when you’re clearing a T-shaped hallway or a room.  If you’re on your own, you have to leave yourself exposed to the left-hand hallway while you search the right-hand one, or vice versa.  There are ways to do this, but it’s much easier if you can each take one leg of the ‘T’.

3)   Fighting

Fighting a violent criminal is much easier if you have an ally.  This is generally only a good idea if you and your family member are both trained and prepared to use violence to counter violence if necessary.  There’s nothing wrong with being either untrained or a pacifist.  But that’s not who you want at your back in a fight.

If, however, you and your wife or son (or daughter) are both trained and prepared to fight, you can outmaneuver a lone attacker.

One common tactic is to flank the assailant, where one of you holds his attention while the other moves to his side.  Make sure that you do not separate yourselves by more than 90 degrees, which could create a dangerous crossfire situation.   A flanking maneuver  divides his attention and defeats his cover or concealment.  It also intimidates him as he realizes he can’t hit both of you.  If he’s not determined, the mere fact of facing two people who are maneuvering against him can be enough to make him rethink violence.

4)   Moving

When you’re moving with a teammate, you don’t want to move together.  Instead, one of you should wait on ‘overwatch’—covering the area with a weapon (ideally a gun) while their partner moves.  If you need to move down a hallway, for instance, have your wife cover you with a gun as you do so.

It can be tough to defend yourself on the move, because aiming and firing are tricky.  Having someone else prepared to fire if they see an enemy, leaving you to concentrate on moving from Point A to Point B, can reduce your risk.

5)   Train Together

None of these tactics can be learned on the fly when your home is being invaded.  Instead, you need to go over scenarios before they happen.  Spend time with your family role-playing emergencies. Go through the actual motions of one person grabbing a gun while one calls for help, one moving while another covers them, and working together to flank an enemy.

And, if you can, enroll in a team training program to learn new skills and hone the ones you have. We’ll be unveiling our Peacekeeper Guardian program early next week to give you and your Peacekeeper network—from friends to neighbors to family—elite online combative training.


There are no certainties in combat: any time you introduce an armed assailant intent on violence, chaos is going to be the result.  But it’s a lot easier to handle an emergency with a family member at your side